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Ladislav Kudlacek
Education project manager (Czech Republic)

Political Scientist and Economist. I worked for human rights and humanitarian NGO in India and for international NGO People in Need based in the Czech Republic as a Programme Manager for Afghanistan. In present time I work as an Education Manager. I studied Economics in Tomas Bata University and Political Science in Masaryk University in the Czech Republic and in the University of Delhi in India and Humanitarian and International Law in Helsinki University in Finland.

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I don’t want you, your horoscope doesn’t fit

Published 18th July 2010 - 5 comments - 3079 views -

I don’t want you, your horoscope doesn’t fit

Astrology and horoscopes are an important part of life in Indian society; the Indians are being accompanied by them during their whole lives. They are often a basis for many decisions, they should pre-empt life disasters and failures. In the foretelling an important role is played also by numerology. It should, together with the placement of stars at the birth, find out whether they can expect happiness and success in their future marriage. The astrology should also set the most appropriate date of the ceremony for a successful marriage. The horoscope is determining especially when one of the partners is negatively influenced by Mars. That the horoscopes of the partners fit in at least 70 percent is very important. “Also my parents are looking for a partner for me already. Recently we received an offer from a rich and respected family, but the son had unfortunately a wrong horoscope. He was handsome and well-educated, yet we had to refuse him,” Gayatri, a colleague of Priya, speaks about troubles with choosing an ideal husband.

Bollywood changes customs

With continuous modernization of the country and influence of romantic stories in bollywood films, wedding customs have been changing step by step. Mainly young people in cities are enchanted by the cult of romantic love. However, even here the same rules as for arranged marriages are applied. The difference is only in the fact that the two lovers choose each other without any assistance of the parents. Still the approval of the family is a condition for realizing the wedding. Parents give the blessing only if the partner of their child corresponds to the religious and social requirements of the family. And also the horoscope is being considered in this case. “We cannot give our beloved daughter to a man with a wrong horoscope. We want for her happiness, fortune and contentment. It is the basis for a good marriage,” Mr. Singh means.

And the statistics support the Indian astrologists. In India a marriage is for a whole life and to divorce is not usual. The rate of divorces is about one percent in this country. “People here do not divorce and that is a proof of successfulness of arranged marriages and all wedding traditions we have,” he proudly emphasizes the success of Indian family customs. But is it so due to the tradition of arranged marriages and astrology or is it significantly affected by compulsion of a family, a community and the whole society? To marry and to live in a marriage is a duty of every good Indian regardless of religion. On the other hand, to divorce is still a stigma.


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Comments

  • Iris Cecilia Gonzales on 18th July 2010:

    I like the photo.


  • Daniel Nylin Nilsson on 19th July 2010:

    I think it is quite easy to overestimate the differnces between arranged marriages and free ones. I can’t really imagine that many Swedes would go into a wedding if their parents were actively against it. And I presume that most Indian parents would not try to push a marriage partner on their kid against its will. After all ones parents will be very important actors in any future marriage, so it is always a kind of negotiation between the happy couple and their elders smile


  • Hanna Clarys on 19th July 2010:

    I would not be so sure about your supposition, Daniel. If you only take a look at the amount of child marriages in India. That is the best example of how a marriage(partner)is forced upon sons and daughters. Check this article:
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-389469/The-illegal-child-brides-India.html


  • Daniel Nylin Nilsson on 21st July 2010:

    Yes, Hanna , the article shows a horrible reality, and for sure many children in India suffer from this.

    I just meant that for many other indians it is not that extreme. The funny things is that people whose spouses were chosen for them sometimes seem to think it is perfectly normal, and to be happy with it.

    But I don’t want to neglect the problems that do exist. And this system could very easily be abused by non-understanding parents, which is a systemic weakness.


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